Hi Jordan, This is awesome! I am on a quick break from work, but wanted to let you know I look forward to learning more. My daughter went in during college and was diagnosed with ADHD. That was 6 years ago and is managing well! But as a mom, I want to understand more about our long distance interactions so I can be more empathetic and compassionate. You know the thing: like why doesn't she respond to texts or emails? lol she is self-aware and says to not be afraid to bug her. So as her parents, we don't want to get butt-hurt, but also don't need to enable her not to keep her own side of the communication deal. At all familiar? :-)
Hi Kate! Thanks for sharing your experience, and I’m glad to hear your daughter is managing her ADHD well. It’s great that you’re seeking ways to improve your long-distance interactions. 😊
Given her ADHD, you might find that prioritizing quality over texts / emails may help. Calls and FaceTime semi regularly + occasional meet-ups can be more effective in ensuring she feels connected, as ADHD individuals can sometimes get overwhelmed by texts and emails - I know I do! When you get ‘text fatigue’, you end up shutting yourself off.
When I moved out, my relationship with my parents strengthened because we had phone calls / saw each-other every once in a while, and it made me appreciate the time I had with them. Now, I regularly call my parents because they made that initial effort. You may strengthen your connection, and she’s likely to appreciate your efforts even more and reciprocate. Remember it’s all about finding the balance that works best for both of you! I would remember she said you don’t have to worry about bugging her too 😊
P.s - if you want to keep updated on my content, click the subscribe button on my ADHD & Me page and you’ll get regular content on all types of ADHD topics 2x a week!
Thank you so much for taking the time to reply with some really helpful advice! Just this past weekend, she surprised me with a visit (we are 4 hours apart) and texted to say she and her SO were in town, and how about brunch? We had an amazing time, had fun and also in-depth conversations about what they were both up to, and also my updates (which as a parent we try not to have be the focus unless you really want to know;-) She works as a travel nurse, so has a very weird schedule and when on 12 hr shifts, we know she only works and sleeps (and eats and showers, lol) so we've tried not to reach out during those stretches. It has worked well that she has offered a link to her schedule so we feel ok about reaching out on days she's not in a block of work. I appreciate your advice for sure. It's hard for me in particular because when she hits home base at her SO's house, it is up by her dad's, and so they get to see each other in person a lot more, but we are on super good terms, so communicate well. I will keep in mind your suggestions, and keep the communication lines open to talking about what works for her and for us. Happy launch, btw!
Hey Jordan, I was wondering if you might be interested in collaborating on a piece around anxiety and ADHD? I’d love to have you featured and read more about your perspective!
Hey Hattie! 100% would love to - if you have Instagram follow me @ jordanmoloney94 and we can discuss properly there. Not sure how to chat on here via message yet!
Hey Jordan, thanks for sharing your content schedule. I’m really looking forward to your first content tomorrow! Personally I’ve never tried any apps yet (such as Headspace), but I’m looking forward to read your thoughts about it. Once again, all the best! ❤️
This is amazing! Can't wait to read!
Hi Jordan, This is awesome! I am on a quick break from work, but wanted to let you know I look forward to learning more. My daughter went in during college and was diagnosed with ADHD. That was 6 years ago and is managing well! But as a mom, I want to understand more about our long distance interactions so I can be more empathetic and compassionate. You know the thing: like why doesn't she respond to texts or emails? lol she is self-aware and says to not be afraid to bug her. So as her parents, we don't want to get butt-hurt, but also don't need to enable her not to keep her own side of the communication deal. At all familiar? :-)
Hi Kate! Thanks for sharing your experience, and I’m glad to hear your daughter is managing her ADHD well. It’s great that you’re seeking ways to improve your long-distance interactions. 😊
Given her ADHD, you might find that prioritizing quality over texts / emails may help. Calls and FaceTime semi regularly + occasional meet-ups can be more effective in ensuring she feels connected, as ADHD individuals can sometimes get overwhelmed by texts and emails - I know I do! When you get ‘text fatigue’, you end up shutting yourself off.
When I moved out, my relationship with my parents strengthened because we had phone calls / saw each-other every once in a while, and it made me appreciate the time I had with them. Now, I regularly call my parents because they made that initial effort. You may strengthen your connection, and she’s likely to appreciate your efforts even more and reciprocate. Remember it’s all about finding the balance that works best for both of you! I would remember she said you don’t have to worry about bugging her too 😊
P.s - if you want to keep updated on my content, click the subscribe button on my ADHD & Me page and you’ll get regular content on all types of ADHD topics 2x a week!
Hi Jordan,
Thank you so much for taking the time to reply with some really helpful advice! Just this past weekend, she surprised me with a visit (we are 4 hours apart) and texted to say she and her SO were in town, and how about brunch? We had an amazing time, had fun and also in-depth conversations about what they were both up to, and also my updates (which as a parent we try not to have be the focus unless you really want to know;-) She works as a travel nurse, so has a very weird schedule and when on 12 hr shifts, we know she only works and sleeps (and eats and showers, lol) so we've tried not to reach out during those stretches. It has worked well that she has offered a link to her schedule so we feel ok about reaching out on days she's not in a block of work. I appreciate your advice for sure. It's hard for me in particular because when she hits home base at her SO's house, it is up by her dad's, and so they get to see each other in person a lot more, but we are on super good terms, so communicate well. I will keep in mind your suggestions, and keep the communication lines open to talking about what works for her and for us. Happy launch, btw!
Hey Jordan, I was wondering if you might be interested in collaborating on a piece around anxiety and ADHD? I’d love to have you featured and read more about your perspective!
Hey Hattie! 100% would love to - if you have Instagram follow me @ jordanmoloney94 and we can discuss properly there. Not sure how to chat on here via message yet!
I don't have Instagram (anxiety won't let me) but my email is novicewriting1@gmail.com.
Hey Jordan, thanks for sharing your content schedule. I’m really looking forward to your first content tomorrow! Personally I’ve never tried any apps yet (such as Headspace), but I’m looking forward to read your thoughts about it. Once again, all the best! ❤️
Thanks for the comment 😌 hopefully it can give you some insight! Testing them tonight!